Not sure about this particular framing, “toxic masculinity”, but people will look at you as less of a man for not cheating on your significant other. This practice, however, is not limited to men. There is a strain of thought that considers powerful people to be unfaithful. In our media, we applaud fictional storylines of reckless abuse of power from people portraying politicians. This occurs from ABC’s “Scandal” to Netflix’s “House Of Cards”.
In USA, we traditionally assign certain jobs to people born with penises that demand physical force. Citizens of this nation are also compelled through media to assign value to force as a dominant factor of power. United States of America is one of Earth’s last empires, not due to intellectual capability. United States of America is one of Earth’s last empires, not through diplomatic sway. United States of America is one of Earth’s last empires, not solely through cultural prowess. United States of America is one of Earth’s last empires predominantly through violent force. Powerful people in this nation are defined by their rapacious indulgence. Men are typed, styled, and fashioned in our minds as symbols and vehicles of this sort of domination.
How I define power, and how I frame what means of power are acceptable also works to define my moral code. It also works to define those moral codes of other people, which works to define my image. As stated, this definition is not limited to my maleness, but extends to whoever finds themselves being sized up. It just so happens to extend by obligation of sex to males in a society where males control and gatekeep many positions of power.
Is this problem masculinity, or is this problem in our glorification of power?